Lately, my life has been very interesting, to say the least. Despite the trials and tribulations presented before me, at what seems like every turn, I am pleased to say that I am finally learning how to simply ride the wave. Normally when my life becomes what I deem as “chaotic”, I become frustrated and take matters into my own hands. I now understand that my control can be limited and that micromanaging every aspect of my life is exhausting. Instead, I now focus on the task at hand and despite difficulty – appreciate the process. The struggle is no doubt making me stronger. Life is sometimes confusing and the only two things I 100% have control over are my effort and attitude. I’m learning that while though I play a pivotal role in how my story ends, I have no control as to what I might encounter throughout each chapter. When we focus on things that we cannot control it becomes a waste of emotional energy. Whenever I find myself falling into a rut, I have to remind myself that some things are simply BEYOND OUR CONTROL. Here are some wondrous words of wisdom by inspirational author Steve Maraboli that I reference to redirect my focus:
Incredible change happens in your life when you decide to take control of what you do have power over instead of craving control over what you don’t.
How would your life be different if…You stopped worrying about things you can’t control and started focusing on the things you can? Let today be the day…You free yourself from fruitless worry, seize the day and take effective action on things you can change.
At every given moment we are absolutely perfect for what is required for our journey.
Your life trajectory is going to present a multitude of obstacles that you will not foresee. I challenge you to focus on the things you can change with the tools you have been equipped. It is often that in the “waves of change” is where we find our true direction.
By Dr. Avis Foley
Co-Publisher, Purpose Weekly