At some point in your life you are going to be required to have a difficult conversation. Whether it’s personal or professional, I normally try to avoid what I like to call “dangerous discourse”. Despite my discreetness, I have become well-versed in conflictive dialogue as of late. My recently-appointed role in leadership education has taught me that difficult conversations are not only challenging but vital to growth as a leader. When you learn to embrace the notion of demanding dialogue you are establishing an opportunity to build trust and respect. Know that you are brave enough to tackle a conversation that might appear to be disastrous! Read on to find out the top three reasons why difficult debate is crucial to your development:
- Avoidance creates anxiety. It’s a known fact that stress is caused by the incongruities that conflict with how you’re feeling and what you are doing about it. So go ahead. Have the conversation…for your health.
- Procrastination permeates problems.While you are driving yourself crazy avoiding colloquy, the underlying issue could possibly be the compounding of not being able to express yourself openly. Addressing the conflict early on can eliminate controversy later.
- Reflective listening enhances leadership. True leaders recognize that wisdom is not gained through talking, but listening. This shows that you have the best interest of others at heart and wish to be viewed as an effective leader.
So, the next time you are charged with having a difficult conversation, cultivate an attitude of discovery and understanding…and lead…with purpose.
By Dr. Avis Foley
Co-Publisher, Purpose Weekly