The Other Side of Fear

Time is of the essence. This old adage is a phrase used in contract law that expresses the need for timely completion indicating that one or more parties to the agreement must perform by the time to which the parties have agreed. Failure to do so constitutes a breach of the contract. After pondering on this aphorism I began to think about how this applies to my life. I then asked myself: Have I breached on my “life contract” that is essential to my purpose?

Of course fear keeps many people from fulfilling their dreams but one must understand that fear is a mindset and you possess the ability to suffocate your fear in order make decisions beneficial to your life. It is a common misconception that one will always “have time” to attain their desires and this allots for distractions that can ultimately delay your dreams… forever. This creates a level of comfort that allows one to believe that it’s just not “meant to be” or you aren’t capable of thriving despite the circumstances. One may also believe that the “right time” will eventually present itself and then at this point they will be brave enough to finally make a decision about what it is they really want. The truth of the matter is that you are running out of time and everything you need to accomplish this set goal (and any other goal) is on the other side of fear. So how do we begin to align our thoughts and actions to move to the other side of solicitude?

  1. Believe in Yourself. Self-confidence is essentially the mastery of fear. What you believe, you will achieve and become. Fear can override our aptitude and wreak havoc on your quality of life. Know that there are no limits and you can go as far as your mind takes you. It’s not what you are that is holding you back, it’s what you think you are not. There is immense power in believing in yourself!
  2. Commit to the Process. Discipline is simply doing what needs to be done, even if you don’t want to do it. Discipline dictates the distance between dreams and reality. A lack of discipline inevitably leads to failure after failure. It must become a habit so ingrained that it is stronger than the excitement of the goal and of the fear of failure. With greatness, comes discipline. Learn to power through inaction and move towards action.
  3. Lead with Purpose. Throughout this entire process you will undergo immense change and this change is what will define you as a leader. Leaders are created through diligence and grit. This is the price all of us must pay to prosper. The challenges you face will help reveal your authentic self in the long run.

It’s important to understand the role you play in shaping your reality! Create a contract for yourself that expresses the need for timely completion in relation to your goals! Be specific in your diction and make sure the fine print is practical and logical. If not, this breach of contract will have detrimental effects on your life. Which side of fear do you reside on?

By Dr. Avis Foley

Co-Publisher, Purpose Weekly


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